Category Archives: Twitter Hints & Tips

Take Your Business Card & Shove it!

"Take my card ..."

“Take my card …”

I’ve just picked up a new client who found me on LinkedIn!

But what’s that got to do with my business card?

Here’s the story …

I just returned from a networking meeting with a handful of business cards.

Wahay, I’m doing what thousands of small biz guys around the country are doing right now: make those connections.

BIG DEAL! Right?

Well, Perhaps: Perhaps Not! Continue reading

Relationship Presumed!

“Delete”, “Unsubscribe”, or worse still, “Will you kindly stop sending me your stupid emails”.

Here are just three courses of action available to those of us who have not given permission for the other party to communicate with us!

The universe into which we all communicate these days has a very different set of rules from those that governed our behaviours just a couple of decades ago. Continue reading

Even Stephen Hawking sounds like an alien!

So here I am at Heathrow airport once again, and once again the airline’s highly technological booking, checking-in and boarding-card-issuing system can’t handle my name!

“Yes, ‘Q’ is my first name, and ‘J’ is my second”, I tutted for what seemed like the twenty first time!

The British Airways lady was very good; very helpful; but their technology … well that’s another story! Continue reading

Twitter in Ten!

Have you ever heard these phrases before?

  • Spend time to make time!
  • To have more clients, target fewer clients!
  • To make more money, stop focussing on money!

Just like these phrases, virtually everything I teach looks counter-intuitive – to MOST PEOPLE!

If you’re like most people, you will often read what I write and think, ‘How can that possibly work? It just doesn’t make any sense. What a stupid idea!’ Continue reading

How Twitter will improve your Networking Results

Here’s a precise, quick, results-based communication that I tried this morning.

It looks very much like it worked.

It took me virtually no effort at all.

Any one could do this – unless you don’t have a Twitter account!


Do tell me if you try it and it works for you too.

Until next week … QJ

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How do you know who the hell you can trust?

I would love to know what your view is on this subject!

Tell me, have I simply become too cynical for my own good?

I know that I am real and that whatever communication I put out there into hyperspace will be the truth, nothing fabricated and nothing that couldn’t be checked out and verified.

But I wonder how many ‘people’ that we stumble across on the web are real!

Here’s the story. Continue reading

No Business Survives without Dialogue – Twitter Tip!

Even if you only put a chocolate bar in your shop window, you have started a dialogue which says, from the chocolate bar’s point of view, ‘Here I am, do you want to buy me?’

And until somebody responds saying, ‘Yes please, I’d like to buy you,’ you don’t have a sale, you don’t have a business.

So the very first skill you must have if you are going to succeed in business is to be able to start conversations with your potential buyers.

My suggested goal for anyone wanting to do well, then, is, ‘Become a Black Belt in Starting Conversations.’

But it doesn’t stop there does it? Because whatever your first communication, if you are not then paying attention to anyone who responds, you will be missing that potential sale!’

My mantra is: ALL CONVERSATION IS TWO-WAY if you want to succeed.

And even I’m bored that I have to keep on banging on about it, but people still don’t seem to get it!

Let me ask you this: Have you ever sent a DM (direct message) to someone on Twitter saying, ‘I’d like to buy what you’re selling’? No? Well try it, I dare you!

You see, I have, and – surprise, surprise – I got no response!

First lesson from this article is:

Check your DMs personally at least once a day, just in case someone wants to buy from you.

Check here for upcoming Twitter workshops

Moving on:

What you really want to know about Twitter is how to move your relationships forward consistently so that you are continually able to qualify people. Otherwise everyone of your followers is just a number – no bloody use to anyone!

So how can you do this? Answer: encourage them to give you information about themselves which you can use to qualify them.

How do you do this? Easy, ask them a question that forces or at least encourages a reply.

Most people automate responses to new followers (bad enough in itself because it does nothing to progress the relationship) but the replies themselves just say something like, ‘Thanks for following me, look at my Facebook page’.

My response to this is, ‘Why the Hell should I?’

You see if you don’t give (GOOD) reasons for people to do something, likely is, they won’t.

So, it’s Completely nuts to respond impersonally! Why?

1 It’s insulting. It makes an assumption – no – not just one assumption but loads of assumptions (makes an ass of u and me).

2 The PSYCHOLOGICAL MOMENT of when someone connects first with you is HOT, REALLY HOT in terms of the other person’s attention on you. There won’t be another first connection, and we all know what they say about first impressions anyway.

3 You are not only wasting your time having attracted someone to you, but you are also losing a potential client and not grasping the opportunity to find out the potential WHEN IT’S IS EASIEST TO DO IT.

There are other Twitter tips on this site

And check here for Twitter workshop and seminars

and Advanced Twitter Workshops & Webinars will be offered by me this year. So subscribe to this Blog now not to miss out if you’re interested in getting ahead of the competition. (That’s my reason why you should, BTW! Probably not yours, but at least I’m making the point!)

Have Fun with your Business.


PS. Please leave your comment below – it’s then Dialogue between us. Thanks.

LOL or Ha-Ha – which one to use …

I’m quite bored with using the term ‘LOL’

Thought I might say Ha-Ha instead until I discovered this definition on Wikipedia: ENJOY …

The ha-ha consorted well with Chinese gardening ideas of concealing barriers with nature, but its European origins are earlier than the European discovery of Chinese gardening.

The basic design of sunken ditches is of ancient origins, being a feature of deer parks in England from Norman times onward. For example, between Dover and Canterbury there is a farm, Parkside Farm, which takes its name from a deer park established by Bishop Odo, the brother of William the Conqueror, where remnants of the ditch still survive. During his excavations at Iona in the period 1964–1974, Richard Reece discovered an 18th-century ha-ha to protect the abbey from cattle.

How to lose fans and piss-off followers (on Twitter)

I don’t know about you and the experiences you’ve had trying to communicate with people in general online, but knowing a bit about linguistics, semantics and the psychological effect of language, I continue to be surprised (I shouldn’t be, I know) by people’s communication behaviours online.

So I’ve decided to offer my modest insight into what goes on – particularly on Twitter – which might help you to get better results from creating and developing better relationships with your fans and followers.

The way I’ve decided to do this is to produce two lists. The first – which the title of this Blog alludes to – is the things to avoid like the plague unless you’re happy for your efforts to be counterproductive and piss-people off.

How to avoid losing fans and pissing off followers on Twitter

  1. Never, ever automate a DM (a direct message). It’s incredibly rude and will likely alienate the person you’re messaging. It’s like phoning someone, and when they answer, playing a recording down the phone at them. AND, to make it worse, most of the automated DMs I receive are JUST A SALES PITCH. They tend to be worded like this:
  • Thanks for following, look at my great website/Facebook page. Like my Facebook page, etc.

My response to this is, ‘why should I?’ If people can’t even be bothered to respond as real people, this does rather give away their attitude in general to generosity, helping people out, reciprocating with you, doesn’t it.

The psychology of influence states that you have to build the familiarity and trust before you even get close to this.

There is also a thing in psychology known as Psychological Reactance:

Psychological Reactance is an aversive affective reaction in response to regulations or impositions that impinge on freedom and autonomy (Brehm, 1966, 1972, Brehm & Brehm, 1981; Wicklund, 1974). This reaction is especially common when individuals feel obliged to adopt a particular opinion or engage in a specific behavior. (To go deeper into this subject, you might like to try